Get Back Up on That Horse When You Fall Off

When you’re working toward fulfilling a resolution or achieving a goal, backsliding seems to be inevitable. I know it was for me this week. Many of us, myself included, can tend to get pretty down on ourselves when we get off track. We see it as failure, and sometimes such pessimistic thinking can lead us to quit entirely. In order to prevent giving up on your goals, it’s important to keep moving forward so that you don’t lose momentum. Let’s talk about some ways to get back up on that horse when you fall off.

Avoid Self-Criticism

We tell ourselves all kinds of negative messages when we fall behind on our self-imposed deadlines or challenges. While it’s natural to do so, it’s also one of the biggest killers of dreams around. Avoid harsh self-talk containing such messages as, “I’ve messed up again,” or, “I’ll never be able to do this.” These kinds of phrases become self-fulfilling prophecies. What you tell yourself has an amazing ability to come true. So it’s okay to be strict and to hold yourself accountable. It’s even good to acknowledge you slipped and need to get back up again. Just be careful to use affirming messages instead of beating yourself up. Remind yourself that this change is important and that you will get back up and start again this very moment.

Be Careful of the Company You Keep

The people we surround ourselves with influence your moods and your attitude more than you may realize. Stay away from those folks who suck the life out of you with their complaining or who don’t support your dreams. They may not even know it, but there’s a good chance they’re trying to steal your joy because they don’t believe in themselves. Instead, stick with those who are positive and uplifting. Their happiness and zest for life may rub off on you. I am finding a few Facebook groups with others who are trying to make positive changes and live with a more uplifting and success-oriented mindset to be helpful to add to my daily social interaction. They say you become the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with so be intentional about who that is.

Remember Your Why

We’ve spoken in this series about your why. It’s your reason for choosing a certain resolution and the goals that will support that resolution. Take time to reconnect with the motivating factors behind why you set out on this journey in the first place. Perhaps journaling about those motivators will help to reinforce them or maybe talking to a friend. Sometimes a simple visualization exercise of what your life can be like when you’ve accomplished your goals is enough to push you past any resistance or struggle.

Look for Inspiration

One final tip I have is to seek out inspirational stories or examples that can help to bring your mojo back. Go online and check the search engines for people who have overcome obstacles. These could be accounts of those seeking the same sort of changes you aspire to or it might just be a success story that resonates with you. Learning how others have overcome obstacles is a great way to invigorate your soul and to get back on track with your goals.

Jack Canfield’s The Success Principles is a book I highly recommend that contains 67 success principles and lots of inspiring stories of others who are applying each of those success principles.

I hope these suggestions come in handy if you find yourself falling off the wagon. It’s not easy to get back on that horse, but it’s almost always worth it.

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